I used to be a serial monogamist. I was in three relationships from the time I was 14 until the time I was 24. For ten solid years, I dated three men. I was comfortably happy with the knowledge that no matter what I was working towards in my life, there was always someone back at home, waiting on me to watch our favorite show, or go out and eat our favorite food.

Around the age of 24, I spread my wings and was exhilarated with the new found freedom I had. I joined match.com, I went on double-dates, blind-dates, and flirted with anyone who had a Y chromosome. I think I even looked twice at the guy who checked our energy meter.

This lasted for about a year, and then I was ready to go back inside the cave. Again, I wanted the comfort that a relationship provided. I began to grow frustrated with my attempts to find love again, and as the age of 27 approached, I grew scared that might never happen.

Recently, I found what I thought was “the one.” We had a whirlwind European romance and I traveled the world with my new found companion. It was romantic and lovely, new and exciting, and I hoped it would never end. Eventually, I realized my little tinkerpoo didn’t have any money, a job, or even a car, and came to the sad reality that maybe it wasn’t me he was lusting after at all, but my bank account that had captured his heart. To make a long story short, tinkerpoo was carrying out a double life in England with an ex-girlfriend, which I discovered before almost signing a two year contract to buy my little unemployed lothario an iPhone.

In the depths of my devastation, a close friend said “You have to learn to be alone. You have to give yourself some time to just be ok with you.” I looked at her as if she just told me that she started eating dog food and offered me to try some. I thought this to be a preposterous idea. How many people have justified wasting their lives away with that line?

Yet, through no choice of my own- I did this. Now believe me, I fought with every inch of my might. I sent thinly veiled texts to guys who are only cute after a few ketel and gingers, when the hour glass on my Saturday started to waste away. I accepted dates from guys who I knew were not the ones but “maybe they had cute friends?” I thought. However, there were still those nights that I sat alone, reading my US weekly and contemplating what kind of cats I would get and what breeds would look best, juxtaposed against my plastic-protected floral sofa.

Suddenly, those nights at home didn’t seem so threatening. When I was on a bad date, I didn’t try to extend it just because I didn’t want to go home. When I was on a good date, I didn’t panic every time he looked at his watch. My demeanor changed. Instead of projecting an aura of desperation and hunger, I felt a sense of calm. Knowing, that regardless of whether this person decided to stay or go, I would be just fine either way.

author of “Happiness in B.A.L.A.N.C.E,” and practices in the Los Angeles area under the supervision of Dr. Richard Oelberger (PSY22186) . Dr. Long works mainly from a positive psychology framework as it applies to addiction, depression, relationships, body image and weight loss.

Some people have definite types when it comes to dating. I have one girlfriend who goes for the Seth Rogan type – sweet, funny, more to love. (Husky nerds everywhere are indebted to Seth Rogan). Another friend likes pricks – she would say intellectuals. What she dates are guys who constantly need to remind you they’re smart, who say things like, “touche,” and, “Wikipedia’s a nice tool for uneducated people.” Another friend dates girls who are manipulative and angry. He describes them as insecure and opinionated. Dude, I’m insecure and opinionated but I don’t baby talk phrases like, “I’m against pop culture,” during the Oscars. I’ve gone through different types. In the 90′s it was Jordan Catalano (sulky, corduroy-wearing musicians). Then Manly (quiet, smelled like leather). Comedians (Converse-wearing depressive types who enjoy PBR and Live Action Role Playing). When you’re still trying to figure out your type, you have to try out some that aren’t: The Confused Christian: On the first date you mention you’re an atheist. He says he’s really more spiritual than religious. He smells like 1994 (cigarettes, Old Spice, flannel) and though you are
technically over that type, it’s reason enough to hang in for a while. After a respectable amount of time (read: 3 dates), you give him a blow job. After, he tells you it was a sin.

The Bitter Nice Guy: This guy’s been hurt. He’s taken one heartbreak and squirreled it away into his soul where it lives like a shrine to that evil bitch* (*perfectly nice girl who didn’t love him back). Inside his soul, it takes on an artificial intelligence and learns to associate hurt with ALL women which, if you’re lucky, means YOU. You figure, I’m not the heartbreaking type. I’ll heal his wounds and make him loving and vulnerable again like in the English Patient. (Note: never imitate a movie that ends with SPOILER ALERT one person burned beyond recognition and the other dead in a cave). After spending weeks or months trying to convince him you’re not going to hurt him you get frustrated and kiss someone else. He weirdly seems really happy to be proved right.

The Younger Guy: At first the seven year age difference is a turn off (he was in high school when you were a substitute teacher), but then you notice you get carded when you’re out with him and realize, this guy makes me look younger and is way cheaper than Chanel Age Recovery serum!

Pros: He doesn’t mind when you tell him he wears too much cologne or that his forks smell. Why? Because he’s more than willing to learn. He’ll never, in bed, utter the words, “Never had any complaints before.”Conversely, he’ll ask questions, take notes, and come in prepared next time.

The cons: He still shrugs and rolls his eyes when embarrassed. When you have plans with him, you tell your friends you are baby-sitting. He somehow still smells like milk. The break up happens when he pretends not to hear or see you after an argument and you realize his Joe Biden impression was spot on because they have SO MUCH IN COMMON.

The Alcoholic: You meet at a bar, obviously. He’s funny, charming, and attentive (willing to make many trips to the bar). Date #1 is a blast. You’re trading anecdotes, cracking each other up. Everyone wishes they were on your date instead of their own. It’s kind of weird he orders seven cocktails at dinner but you chalk it up to first date jitters. You kiss in an underground parking lot and it doesn’t feel rapey. Things get wierd on date #2 when he tells you ALL THE SAME stories. When you bring up topics from last time, he draws a total blank. He confesses to drinking whiskey before bed every night and has dozed off at the table when you return from the ladies room. Look, I don’t hold it against a guy if he’s not my type. I just let him hold me against him for less time than I would say, Crispin Glover holding a typewriter and riding Black Beauty. Hey, at least I don’t go for daddy types.

Today’s specimen was brought to me by a friend who shall remain nameless to protect the innocent. Her story all began with a tall, dark, and handsome, a twinkle in his eye, and a little help from his friends- “Aston,” and “Martin.”

Now this guy could not have looked better on paper if he tried (and believe me he tried all the time). Harvard educated, law degree, heir to wealthy family, well-connected socially, smooth, athletic, and did I mention- tall, dark, and handsome?

My friend was absolutely smitten with her OOA (object of affection). She would grin from ear to ear when speaking his name and had a magnificent ability to tenuously link all conversation topics back to said OOA. However, the more she began to be around him, the less she became interested.

She would find herself primping to the nines to go and see him, only to later feel deflated and disappointed when returning home. Like a heroin addict, trying to reach that first high, she tenaciously went back for more, trying to regain some part of what she felt that first day. Yet there was nothing there.

This, my friends, is The Cotton Candy Man. He looks all puffed up with his sugary sweet credentials, shaggy/carefree locks framing his sun-kissed face perched atop a chiseled and towering body. The impressive size of his hands only trumped by the size of his Harvard CV. Yet, this man has not been forced to develop any form of internal structure. Like a snail, whose hard outer covering allows them to be a slimy glob of nothingness on the inside- this man has not had a need to be funny, caring, considerate, charming, genuine, or even clever. The more my friend began to lick the surface, the less there was.

Dude Diagnosis- The Cotton Candy Man

Patient Presentation- This man often comes in a sugar encrusted coating which includes trust funds, social status, obscure athletic endeavors such as equestrian training, polo sports, and croquet. He wears collared shirts with various types of animals embroidered on the right chest, and his fingernails are always neatly manicured. He drives the type of car that the valet always leaves at the front of the building and transitions from one sentence to the next with the ease of a sommelier touting wine pairings. Yet, something is amiss and you can’t put your finger on it. As soon as you do- the candy cloud disappears to nothing.

Prognosis and Rx- This candy coated cad will eventually meet a cotton candy lady in her J Crew tennis sweater, ever so daintily wrapped around her pin-thin shoulders, hair neatly pulled in an unassuming pony-tail, make-up less (because the fraxel/botox treatments have paid off). They will ever so politely exchange their Ivy-League creds over a bottle of Pinot, their tenuous social links, and how Jorge makes the best smoothies at the tennis club. They will eventually tie the knot in their protestant led wedding, soon discover the other one has absolutely nothing to offer, and begin searching for the meat and potatoes through their respective secretaries and pool boys.

Some cardinal rules when it comes to dating: Never date someone your best friend has loved or slept
with. Don’t kiss your bald boss in his office when the secretary can hear. Don’t date anyone who
smells like cheese. A lesser known rule is this: Never make out with your pen pal. For the record, I
have only stuck to the first rule.

In fourth grade my status on the social ladder was so low I was actually below ground. My arrival at Aldert Root Elementary elevated every nerd to a higher rung. I was dropped into the North Carolina
public school system and the natives did NOT accept me as one of their own. Even the teacher, Mrs.
Burken, said I had to stop hanging around her at recess. After many desperate attempts to fit in, I took
a new tact. I announced I was half horse and spent lunch periods galloping around the soccer goals.
Neighing.

When Mrs. Burken announced we’d all be getting pen pals, my stomach leapt, thrilled by the
opportunity to make a new impression and (possibly) find my soul mate. They didn’t know I was a
nerd in CHINA! I wrote my assigned pal, a boy named Chen Lee. “Dear Chen, I’m Erin. I love
horses. I love reading horse books and books by R.L Stine that are about teenagers who murder and do
drugs. Do you ever feel just really alone? I sometimes stare out the mini blinds for so long that when I
look away I see stripes from the light. I want to be a Marine Biologist. Or a jockey.” It went on. I
confessed deep feelings and included an illustration. It was seven weeks before I heard back. “Dear,
Erin. Our government is Communist where as in the U.S it is a democracy. From, Chen.” Cue intense
galloping that day at recess.

18 years later, I met Ben. He was in town visiting a friend of mine. When we saw each other there was
a strange, nearly audible click. Three hours and seventeen soul mate fantasies in someone asked, “Ben,
where do you live?” “In a house. With my girlfriend.” Reverse that God damn click.

But we exchanged e-mail addresses and started writing and suddenly, here he was: Chen Lee in the
form a granola dude with dreamy eyes and Converse. It was like writing in a journal that answered
back. For two years we wrote about the sheer torture of being kids, yet the misplaced desire to go
back. We exchanged first time horror stories, worst kisses, biggest regrets. When Ben broke up with
his girlfriend he wrote how lost he felt and I responded sympathetically, but thought: He’s available.

He came to visit. In my grungy apartment we listened to my sad collection of soundtracks and power
ballads for six hours. He barely spoke. I monologued. We moved to my bed. His hand inched over to
mine. We made out like seventh graders, hesitant and giddy.

A couple days later, blank e-mail before me, I realized how difficult it is to write honest words lacking
ulterior motive to someone you have dry humped next to your pink bunny. Anything I wrote was like
writing, “We finally kissed!” Not writing it seemed to be admitting, “And like Chen Lee in the 4th
grade, you didn’t fill this emptiness.” It’s a tragic habit, pinning the power of completion on someone
else, like a flier to the shirt of a kindergartener.

So, I broke another lesser known rule: Never have phone sex with your pen pal. Scratch that. Never
have phone sex. It’s too much work! Not only do you have to maintain a constant verbal flow, you
have to respond logically to what he is saying AND focus on a fantasy of your own because you’re used
to the trusty flip book in your brain.

Like 4th grade, the verbal romance was over. Chen was learning English and deciphering my
outpouring was not part of the assignment. Ben on paper wasn’t the same in life. I was looking for a
reflection of me, not a person. Both guys just got lost in translation.

I don’t see too many people in my therapy practice who tell me how wonderful their relationship is, how much passion and fire they have, and how they  just can’t get enough of each other. Those people are loved up somewhere in a restaurant, in a park, or in a bedroom – far beyond the confines of my office.

What I do see, however, are those people who find their relationship sapped of its energy. The luster has worn off and they want me to fix it. Like a local witch doctor, they expect to pay me $175 and in return, give them a magical potion which suddenly puts the heat back in their loins, the fire back in their engines, and the twinkle back in their eyes.

When I tell them, I cannot do this, the look of disappointment surfaces. When I tell them that the terms “marriage,” and “relationship” are verbs, they are really disappointed. “You mean we have to do something?” they ask, “we never had to work before, it was never this hard before,” they contend.

In the beginning, we idealize the other person. During the first six months, we are under Mother Nature’s Spell, as I call it. We are biologically hard-wired to think our object of affection is the greatest thing to walk the planet since sliced bread. With every text message, every email, every mention of their name- our brains are immediately flooded with dopamine. Like crack addicts, we become that person, the person who tries to fit in the apple of their eye’s name into every conversation, no matter how loose of a connection (i.e. “oh that’s funny you mentioned your dad, because Brad actually rhymes with that and did I tell you what funny thing Brad did yesterday?). We are basically masturbating in front of our friends and family when we do this, and no one wants to see this.

Yet, after about six months to one year, the shine wears off. What appeared as such a positive trait (he is just so laid back, it seems like nothing gets to him, I really need that in my life), becomes a negative (oh my god he is so freaking lazy, will he ever get off the couch, I can’t have this type of person in my life). We start to respond differently to the other person. No longer, do we hang on every word, providing encouragement and idolization to the other. We roll our eyes, wait for them to finish talking, so we can say what we need. No wonder that the other person starts acting differently- WE are acting differently. Yet every time, each person thinks that somehow it is the other person who has changed.

So what do we do about this conundrum? How do we bring the sparkle back? The answer- be afraid be very afraid. Well, ok sort of. Fear is the answer. According to research, it is fear that is the underlying emotion in passion- the fear of the unknown, the fear that this person might leave at any time, the fear that this person may find someone better. Passion is then, the climax or peak experience, when we are brought close to this object of fear and our needs are gratified in the short term. Think about when you’ve done something really scary and come through the other side. The feeling at the end is a rush, its exhilarating.

My advice to my clients is not to start breeding fear and discontent into their relationships, however. My advice is to become a mystery again. Take up a hobby that you gave up when you two got serious, cultivate your friendships again (and this may be difficult if you pulled a Houdini as soon as you fell in love), start doing things on your own like you did when you were single like going to the movies or a new restaurant. The goal of a relationship is not to become two halves of one whole that complete each other, but two wholes that complement each other.

If you’ve ever tried to have sex or even just petted heavy with a guy who got hooked on porn too early,
you know they’ve got some fictional notions of what intimacy looks (and sounds) like. I, for instance,
don’t repeat the phrase, “Oh yeah, give it to me!” while in the throws, nor do I treat his member like an
edible God.

But ladies grew up with some equally ridiculous ideas about relationships. Like fighting with a guy
then storming out because you just KNOW he’ll run after you, pull you close and say, “I was wrong.
Please. I can’t lose you,” then kiss you passionately and the fight’ll suddenly disappear like the smoke
monster on LOST? In reality you end up standing outside his door alone or sitting in your car waiting
for a guy who’s probably playing video games and wondering why you’re such a nut. That behavior
doesn’t work in the real world. It only works on the WB. The WB is porn for chicks.

Buffy’s bedroom was on the second story so, that Angel showed up at her window after every fight
showed great motivation you’re not likely to find in a real guy, unless he’s a stalker with impressive
upper body strength (who wants that combo)? Also, he was a VAMPIRE – a fact I overlooked when I
filed that relationship under “Ideal,” in my bank of sad delusions. Finally, she was a SLAYER. My
ideal relationship: being the most special person on earth and being adored by the most special
vampire. None of this has to do with love, it has to do with popularity. Flash back to the social
torment of Junior High. Flash forward to moving to LA to act. The picture becomes clearer.

Buffy and Roswell both promoted this: tragedy equals the perfect romantic setting. In Buffy, the world
needing to constantly be saved plus the “I’m a cheerleader, you’re a 250 year old vampire” dilemma
was material enough to create tragic circumstances. Roswell: Teen soul mates, Max and Liz, are in
intergalactic planetary chaos for 99% of their lives; no wonder the kissing scenes were so hot. But if
you’re not lucky enough to be struck by tragedy naturally, you have to force it. This is when things get
ugly. It’s tough work in the form of taking everything he says the wrong way, crying pretty, and
creating situations where he must confess deep emotions or it’s over. Most guys drop out after scenario
one. The good ones stick around but they end up hating you for it.

It’s a major suck in the real world where you have to sacrifice demon chases for movie nights, “I have
to save the world. Again,” for mature conversation, and hot aliens for aspiring comedians. But it beats
sitting home alone at 30 with a bottle of white and the complete collection of Dawson’s Creek poised
for yet another night in. Don’t get me started on Joey…

Recently, a guy began telling me about one of his hall o’ shame worst dates ever. He told me that on one date he flat out told the girl that he had been on job interviews that were more fun. He said that she just kept drilling him with questions, “what do you do?” “what are your views on religion? Politics?” On another date, the girl would simply answer the questions he asked her about herself, but never asked him anything, or talked about anything of interest.

Then I got to thinking, these girls are probably not the only ones out there who could use a little dating make-over. The former girl probably was told somewhere that it’s important to ask the other person lots of questions to keep the date interesting. The latter girl probably heard the “rules” advice of not revealing too much on the first date and not appearing too “needy” or “desperate” on the first date. Yet, both failed, and in the end lost a great guy (lucky for me- I got him for now.. .

The rule about being a great date is that there are no firm and fast rules about being a great date. As cliché as it may sound, it is about being yourself. This can be a tall order for most of us, especially when there is a core underlying belief that ourselves aren’t good enough.

Instead of adhering to specific rules about what you should and shouldn’t do- try remembering this simple acronym: HIRS. It stands for the words happy, interested, reflective, smiling.

The first principle is that happy people like to be around other happy people. Conversely, misery loves company. Unless you want to attract miserable people into your life, keep it light. Focus on the positive things that are happening in your life, what you think is funny, what you think Is great about someone else, or even better- the person  sitting across the table from you.

Research demonstrates that when people talk negatively about other people. Those same traits that someone is using to bad mouth someone, actually become associated with the person whom it came from by the person hearing the story. In simpler terms, if you tell your date that your best friend has such low self-esteem and is needy, he will associate those same traits with you, subconsciously.

The second principle, interest, is an easy one. If you are interested, ACT INTERESTED! So many people feel like they have to play coy, when all we want as humans is to feel good about ourselves. Keep in mind that our date has their own worries and doubts, by creating a false sense of disinterest, we are merely feeding an already negative feeling.

Also, a key point to remember is that people can intuit if we are genuinely interested, or if we are just faking it. So find something about that person that genuinely and truly interests you. A great example might be, “you know I really admire how you can just talk to anyone, how do you think it is that you got to be so confident?”

The third principle, reflective, means that we should be a mirror for our date. We should remember that this moment is not just about us. It is about another person who has their own insecurities, their own flaws. By thinking of ourselves as a mirror, it begins to take the pressure or spotlight off of us.

Another facet of this principle is to reflect back to them during the conversation. When talking about things you enjoy doing, reflect to them, “I really want to try surfing but am a bit scared, is that something you’ve ever tried?” If we simply engage in a run-on monologue about ourselves, we will lose the person at hello.

The last principle is very simple- SMILE. I have noticed that often times, when people get nervous or think too much, they frown. Just the simple act of smiling non-verbally relays to the other person that we are warm and inviting, that we are filled with joy and a joy, ourselves, to be around.

Kissing is an extremely important part of a relationship.  Many people can tell if this person is “the one” just by locking lips.  For some first kisses, second first kisses and so on, this can be incredibly stressful.  Just keep in mind that kissing is fun.  It sets up a great fore play but is sweet and innocent.  You should also realize that everyone kisses differently.  It is important to focus on your own kissing and not so much on critiquing the kissing of your partner.

The Mouth

You want your lips to be appealing to the opposite sex.  If someone sees that your lips are cracked and dry, it may not be the sexiest look for lips.  However, if you use lip balm or an SPF chapstick then you can make your lips look delicious every single day.  Once you know that the exterior of the mouth is in good working condition it is time to move inside.  Brushing your teeth is a must.  You should also have a good flossing and mouthwash regimen as well.  When you know that the interior of your mouth is a go, then you can kiss away in confidence.  The mouth is very sensual and sexual.  You need to keep it that way so that you are able to attract the opposite sex.

Feel Things Out

We can sit here and talk about the right moment to gently suckle your partner’s lip or tongue, how to suavely lick their lips or the perfect tongue movements but it is way to complicated and unnatural at the moment.  Let how you feel dictate your kiss.  You are with someone who you feel comfortable with.  If he or she does not like what he or she is feeling then you can communicate about it.  But for the most part all you have to do is relax.  As you kiss, you should pull your bodies in closer together.  Always kiss with your eyes closed so that your other senses take control of your body.  This will help to become creative in the kidding department, create your own style and the rhythm of your kiss.  Some things that you can do are touch the back of your loved one’s head, run your fingers through their hair and along their back.

Perfecting Your Kiss

All kisses are different so there is no right or wrong way to go about them.  The only way to perfect your kiss is to start practicing.  You can practice with anyone but you will not truly get the benefit unless you are kissing someone who you really want to be with.

Rebound dating is quite common.  People invest so much time on any given relationship and after it ends, they decide that they cannot waste any time so they get right back into the game.  However, this tends to create dozens of problems in the new relationship.  The rebounder commonly blames one’s problems on his or her new partner.  This is unfair for both sides.  You should not fall into this mistake.  Breaking up with someone can be a heart wrenching experience but it is an experience that you can grow from.   You can begin to discover yourself in and look forward to finding someone new to share your life with when the right time comes.  Below you will find the best 25 articles to help you to avoid rebound dating:

1. Understanding Rebound Relationships – You may not know that you are in a rebound relationship.  If you think you are, then you should understand what a rebound relationship is.
2. Making a Rebound Relationship Work – Since you found out that you are in a rebound relationship, find out how you can make this relationship work.
3. What are the Signs that a Rebound Relationship is Actually the Real Thing and Not a Fling – Sometimes there is some doubt as to whether the relationship you are in is a rebound relationship or the real deal.  Find out which relationship you are in with the signs from this article.
4. You Should Avoid Getting Into a Rebound Relationship – Here are all of the reasons that you need to know why you should not get yourself into a rebound relationship.
5. Beware of a Rebound Relationship – There are many reasons as to why you should not get involved in a rebound relationship from either end.
6. Rebound Relationships Are Unhappy Relationships – There is nothing worse than being in a rebound relationship for various reasons.  Find them out now.
7. Rebound Relationships: How Can You Win Your Ex Back – You may still think there is a chance between you and your ex but he is dating someone else on the rebound.  Read this article to find out how to get him back.
8. Avoiding a Rebound Relationship – Here are a few tips on how to avoid getting yourself into a rebound relationship.
9. Rebound Relationship and Love: What’s the Difference? – There is a major difference between a relationship based off of a rebound situation and true love.  Find out the differences here.
10. Do Rebound Relationships Last? – Find out here is a rebound relationship can turn into a long term and progressive relationship.
11. What is a Rebound Relationship? – You hear the term all of the time but do you really know what it is?  Find out what a rebound relationship is here.
12. Myths of the Rebound Relationship Revealed – Many people think they are experts but have created myths regarding rebound relationships.  Discover these myths here.
13. How to End a Rebound Relationship – Now that you have discovered that you are in a rebound relationship, learn how to get out without any hard feelings.
14. She’s Just in a Rebound Relationship : Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back – You may not be out of luck if you are still in love with your ex girlfriend.  See how you can get her back even if she is in a rebound relationship.
15. Do Ex’s Come Back After a Rebound Relationship? – There is still hope for your ex to come back after a rebound relationship.  Find out why here.
16. How to Spot a Rebound Relationship? – If you do not wan to be caught in the crossfire of a rebound relationship, learn how to spot one out here.
17. Creating Successful Rebound Relationships –Just because you are in a rebound relationship it does not mean that it has to be a disaster.  Learn how to create a successful relationship here.
18. A Rebound Relationship – How They Can Work in Your Favor – Rebound relationships can actually help you and your true love get back together.  Find out how here.
19. Four Warnings About a Rebound Relationship – If you see these four warning  signs in your relationship, then you are heading down rebound lane with your new catch.
20. Signs of a Rebound Relationship – How Do You Know? – If your relationship is oddly reflected by these signs then it is very likely that you have entered into a rebound relationship.
21. How to Screw Up a Rebound Relationship – Many mistakes are made in a rebound relationship.  If you find yourself committing them then you should get out of this relationship and learn how to avoid these relationships all together.
22. Best Avoiding Rebound Relationship Methods You’ll Find Online – If you do not want to be in a rebound relationship, then you should follow these tips to steer clear.
23. Can Rebound Relationship Work – There are some cases where you really do fall into love while in a rebound relationship, find out how they can work.
24. Have You had an One the Rebound Relationship – Were you dating on the rebound and did not even notice?  Are you the reboundee?  Find out how.
25. Can a Rebound Relationship Feel like Love? – There is a very fine line between a rebound relationship and real love.  Find out what it is here.

These are the best 25 articles to learn everything you need to know about a rebound relationship.

Your online profile says a lot about you.  However, if you do not fill it out correctly, then the man or woman of your dreams will not be able to find you.  Lot’s of people think it is better to lie about certain things like their physical features and their age but eventually you are going to meet someone in person and by that time they will discover your farce.  Unless you have no intention of meeting these people in real life, then you are going to need to build the best profile you ca so that the people that you want to find you, will find you.  Below you will find some of the best tips available to build you that better profile:

• People deal with negativity all of the time.  So when they look for someone to date they do not want to find a person who thinks that the glass is half empty all of the time.  Instead of saying why you hate dating men, concentrate on what you do like.  Instead of saying that yellow roses disgust you tell profile viewers how much you love red carnations.
• There are millions of profiles to search through and after a while all of the profiles look like this “Blah, blah, blah.  Therefore you need to turn you blah blah blah into a wow ta da type of profile.  Everyone sleeps, drinks and eats, but what makes you different?  Who doesn’t enjoy a good book, movie or music?  You can list your favorite books, movies and music to give the person an idea of what types of genres you are into but make yourself different from everyone else.
• Just because you are dating online, it does not mean that you want to go out with the same losers that have forced you into trying something new.  With millions of choices at your fingertips clearly state out who you want to date.  Do not say someone who is funny but rather a warm man between the ages of 25 and 33 who enjoys life and can make a woman laugh.  Do not be afraid to put down the person you want to find and to find him.
• Keep your profile truthful.  At one point or another someone is going to find out what was true or not, and you want to find someone who loves you for the truth not for the lies.
• Keep your profile updated.  Change your main photo, add new ones and change the header message.  This will help to catch the attention of new admirers.

Find your match with your new profile today.