When you have been going out with someone for months it is hard to say goodbye especially if you love that person.  However, there is a major difference between loving someone and being IN love with that person.  You should also realize that if you are in an intercultural relationship there may not be a difference between these two phrases but at least in English, there is.  You can care about someone deeply but that “I’m deeply in love with you” feeling has flown the coup.  So how do you know if you just love him or are still in love with him?

Sometimes you really are in love with your partner but you’ve just forgotten about the romance.  Try to talk about spicing up your relationship again.  Go out in the middle of the week.  Do something that you used to do when you first started going out.  You should also try being more intimate.  When a relationship loses its intimate aspect, you also start to lose that in love feeling.  Remember the moment that your phone rang and you would fly across the room because you knew he was calling you.  Or how about when you were getting ready to go out and you would hear the doorbell and you would feel weak in the legs with butterflies in the tummy.

See if any of these dates bring back that floating feeling.  If you do recuperate this feeling, it means that you are still in love with this man that you wake up next to everyday.  However, if you just aren’t excited to wake up next to your boyfriend or to even go out with him, then you may want to rethink your relationship with him.  It is quite possible that you just aren’t attracted to your boyfriend like you were when you first meant.  Love is meant to change and to transform.  However, if it becomes boring and null then you just love the person that you are with and you are not in love him.

So what do you do?  The best thing to do is to break up so that you can go on an adventure with someone new, someone who can maintain that loving feeling for months and years.  This will be a tough break up because you still do deeply care for this person and the reason for breaking up can be quite confusing for your soon to be ex.  You may have to be a little crafty, but it will be one of the best decisions of your life when you find that person who really makes you feel like you are floating on clouds.