Many dating columnists advise their audience on how to successfully prep themselves for their first date.  However, the advice seekers think they are following the rules on how to win over their date for a second date when they realize that this person will never even call again after being dropped off.  Usually, the advice is excellent.  The problem is the additional work you add into the date.

If your date columnist says to take your date out to a nice restaurant and you take her to one of the most expensive restaurants in town and do not have the real means to pay for it then this is a major turn off.  Also, if you do have the means for this type of dining on a regular basis and you make the comment that you can take her out to fine dining all the time then this can also be a date buster.  Good women do not want to hear about how poor or rich you are.  They prefer not to know anything about your finance situation.  Go to a place that is in your means, enjoy the meal and pay for it.  Not too hard, right?

The next tid bit of advice that you may follow is to dress well on you first date.  When a man reads dress well he might think of a tuxedo or wearing a tie.  However, if your first date is to the movies or to a museum then you are way over dressing.  There are ways to dress nicely without over doing it.  In a worst case scenario that as a man you really don’t know how to dress yourself, go to a department store, tell the woman your budget and have her pick out an appropriate outfit for you.  It sounds crazy but by letting another woman dress you, you will be dressed appropriately for your first date.

Great conversation is essential to a great first date.  Lying is not.  Sometimes men have a hard time being interesting without lying.  If a woman catches you in a lie (even if it is as little as you said you had chinese food last night when you really had Mexican) then there will be no second date.  Consistency is key and this is synonomous with the truth.  If you cannot make  your life interesting then just ask her questions and try to engage in a stimulating conversation that may have nothing to do with your life in particular.

You can easily blow your first with good advice.  Just try to be yourself.  Dress appropriately, don’t talk about money, politics or religion and have fun.